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In a quite historic move from the previously LGB charity Stonewall They said that from today they will campaign for Lesbian, gay and bisexual and trans equality and rights.
Stonewall has spent the last number of months meeting over 700 different trans* people respercenting as much as the spectrum as possible. As a result of this they come up with a report outlining out lining about making current and to also develop new ones on trans issues and also about training.
Now we can’t forget that in the past Stonewall have made some massive mistakes such as working with Paddy power after their transphobic TV advert for lady’s day at Cheltenham races (which was later banned by the ASA) but they have apologised for this and stated that they wanted to start a consultation to look at the most effective ways of working together.
To find out more read their report: Trans people and Stonewall
Pink News: Article
Over the past month I’ve been in constant battle with the 3 network in the UK about them filtering my blog because of ‘Adult’ content… But they weren’t the only ones (Vodafone, O2 and Sky) but these networks and providers quickly unblocked it after I pointed it out.
Now I’m not after website traffic or anything but it’s a point to make to them that it’s censorship of free speech but also stopping people finding figures and info about LGBT and personal mental health experiences.
Now 3 briefly unblocked my website only to only to reblock this week (as you can see from the photo).
Now this sort of thing is part of a bigger problem, the UK government is promoting filters (and making ISP’s) to prevent children and young people from seeing content that is supposed to be for over 18’s, such pornography, alcohol, smoking, pro-anorexia and hate speech.
These filters block many more websites that are not harmful to children. Sometimes innocent websites and blogs get caught up (like Pink News). I’ve also heard and seen evidence of others (sexual health, lgbt information, domestic abuse help sites ext)
Looking at https://www.blocked.org.uk, they’ve taken the top 100,000 websites (according to Alxea) and published how many sites were blocked by default. Here’s the results:
Plus net: 4940
Sky filter default: 0
TalkTalk Kidsafe: 7020
TalkTalk Strict: 5653
Out of all the mobile networks Three were the worst and the main ISP’S it was TalkTalk Kidsafe… Wonder how many Inccent websites were quite up?
So today is that time of the year where it’s Transgender Day of Remembrance. Since the last TDoR over 200 trans* women were killed just for being who they were and a large number of people killed were overwhelmingly people of colour.
Being Transgender is not fun at all, you can be assaulted, verbally abused, questioned about your name or what genitals you have and as I wrote about earlier you can be killed just for being who you are. You might have to explain your anatomy or history to partners as well all while not knowing how they will react.
As a trans woman with a support network I still have a hard time believing if any partner would love me as who I am or if they’re treating me as a secret. In the past I’ve been assaulted, threatened, stalked and even had death threats put through my door just because for being who I am. These are things I’ve come to expect for being trans now and as I expect for being outspoken and campaigning on LGB&T issues locally and around the country.
It really shouldn’t be this way, everyday I wish I could of been born a cis woman or wishing some people wouldn’t bring up or know my old name. I also wish that being trans (or having a trans history) wasn’t a big deal for some people.
Like I said earlier I have a great support network from friends, family but also from Twitter and the likes of people I’ve met through facebook but it’s still hard to get though each day knowing about what people say/think or even do to us. That knowing there’s people who will want to invade our privacy, or think it’s okey to ask intimate details about our lives (like who we love? How do we do it? What parts do we have?). Sadly people have asked me these (and also asked friends or family of mine this as well)
For four years now I’ve been a outspoken campaigner on LGB&T issues (Mainly the T) and have seen many things improve in my time such as the increasing awareness of trans issues and people BUT the fact that there’s so much more that needs changing still but it’s a uphill battle.
I thank my friends and family for being there for me and everyone else for being there for all the trans people in their lives. We need it and appreciate it (even if we don’t say it or show it). We don’t do what we do to be inspirational (I think we all get told this at some point). We are resilient, beautiful people with complex stories and who knew, perhaps better than anyone, what it means to overcome and I hope daily that the work that people like us are doing will allow more of us to overcome the violence that this world does to us so often.
We aren’t going to be going away and the light of everyone of us that is taken to soon, will carry on in each one of us as the fire in the bellies, of us who live to see another day, to carry on fighting
Today I was going though some old email accounts and come across some emails from a very old blog I used to write. This was full of posts when I was at my worse in terms of my mental health and also with anorexia and listed things such as poor care, sections I was on, the move between camhs to adult services and also poems (used to be quite a poet till I gave up).
So while having a good read down memory line I saw this under a post called ‘living with the lies’
I don’t know why I do it, but I do. I have this unhealthy obsession with pretending to people that my life is trundling along with absolutely no problems and everything is fantastic when in actual fact it’s falling apart very rapidly and is being held in place by the tiniest of tiniest of threads which can come undone at any time because of the smallest thing, and today I think its happened
It got me thinking, during that time I was very ill and not at that point of asking for help so I pretended everything was okey, I still do have that obsession at times where I do say I have no problems, everything is fantastic when everything is really going wrong but over time I have improved on that, instead of all the time, I do now ask for help if I need it.
All it takes is that one trigger, that one thread to come undone and everything comes apart.
I never thought anything I wrote would be published or rank highly on websites I’ve submitted to but this week was a surprise. One of tweets (yes I know it’s only a tweet) was published in Diva (a lesbian magazine in the uk) and one of my reddit posts is the top 3 in the LGBT section (so if your on reddit feel free to up vote it to get it number one)